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Jane: Excellent point — if you’re really concerned about someone thinking this, that’s probably your brain telling you it’s not right in the first place. Thanks for commenting!
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1) It depends on you, how you judge yourself. If you will feel used if he does not call you after, or bad to accumulate notches on the bedpost which led to nothing, wait.
Especially since my divorce I have dated a great deal. No man who ever was “really into me” left because I said not yet ( and when I said it I often wanted it too, but I needed to know if there was something more there than raw sexual attraction). I find sex fulfilling when I am connected, and no longer too shy to talk about my sexual needs or hear about theirs and that takes a different amount of time depending on the person, how open they are, chemistry, etc. Because I got to know them a bit there were many, while into me, I found I was not into for various reasons (one I discovered had a percocet addiction, another drank excessively, one had an awful scream at the checkout girl temper…) and I had not wasted my body, risked attachment to an unhealthy person (for many women sex attaches them emotionally more than for men), or risked exposure to them. But that’s me. If you don’t have a problem with the notches, can stay emotionally detached while physically connectedand still getting to know someone, and are not worried about catching the STD’s condoms don’t protect against (there are several) go for it if it feels right.
2) No man’s decision about whether or not they like you will be in any way affected deliteriously by the fact that you slept with them unless the sex is bad.
If they like you they like you. If the sex is good that’s a “wow that too!” bonus. If you don’t hear from them they were either just looking to get laid (and not into you in the first place) or the sex sucked, period! If it was good for you, and you enjoyed the moment without guilt or feeling used who cares? I have girlfriends who are fine with this. Then I have those who pretend they are fine with it when actually I watch it erode their self respect and damage their capacity for a healthy relationship, what they are truly seeking. Know thyself.
